Recovery from addiction is a journey, not just the period spent in rehab. As a loved one, your role starts long before rehab begins and continues long after. It’s a commitment that involves understanding, patience and support at every stage.
That’s why we’ve created this guide to help you navigate each stage of your loved one’s recovery, including tips on what to do and even what to say during each step. We understand that knowing when and what to say can be difficult, especially in unfamiliar situations. This guide aims to make those conversations a little easier.
Keep in mind that everyone’s journey is different and some tips may not apply to your specific situation. If you need more tailored advice, don’t hesitate to reach out to Oasis Runcorn.
Here’s a guide to help you navigate how to offer that support in a way that helps, not hinders.
Before rehab
The moment your loved one acknowledges their substance use problem is the start of their recovery. It’s crucial to offer the right kind of support at this early stage.
Listen, don’t lecture
This is a vulnerable time for your loved one. They’ve made a huge step in admitting they need help, and now they need to feel heard, not judged. Be present and available for conversations without trying to control them.
What can you say?: When your loved one opens up about their struggles, you might respond with something like, “I can’t imagine how hard this must be for you, but I’m really glad you’re talking to me about it. I’m here to listen whenever you need.” This kind of response shows them you’re truly there for them without adding pressure.
Research inpatient rehab options
Look into rehab programmes that align with their needs. Be supportive in the decision-making process without pressuring them. It’s about guiding them, not making the decision for them.
What can you say?: If they’re feeling unsure about what to do next, you could gently say, “I’ve looked into a few rehab programmes that seem like they might fit what you’re looking for. I’m happy to go through them with you whenever you’re ready; no rush.” This way, you’re being supportive without pushing too hard.
Set boundaries
This is tough but important. Supporting them doesn’t mean enabling harmful behaviours. If they’re still using, you may need to set clear boundaries around things like finances or emotional manipulation to protect yourself while still being a source of emotional support.
What can you say?: If they’re still using substances, it can be really tough to navigate, but setting boundaries is key. You might say, “I love you, and I want to help, but I can’t keep giving you money if it’s being used in a way that’s hurting you. Let’s focus on finding the help that will really make a difference.” It’s about protecting yourself while staying supportive.
During rehab
Once your loved one is in inpatient rehab, the focus will shift to healing and detoxing. It may feel like your role is paused, but there’s a lot you can do to help them succeed while they’re in treatment.
Stay connected, but don’t overwhelm
Rehab is an intense experience and your loved one may need space to focus. Stay in touch through letters or calls if allowed but respect their need for quiet time. Let them reach out when they feel ready.
What can you say?: A simple letter once a week might be just what they need. You could write something like, “Just wanted to remind you how proud I am of you. You’re doing such important work and I’m thinking of you every day. Take your time, I’m here when you’re ready to talk.” This lets them know they’re in your thoughts, without making them feel like they have to respond.
Attend family therapy sessions
Many rehab centres offer family counselling as part of the programme. If this is available, take advantage of it. It’s an opportunity to heal the relationship and learn how to support them better.
Support their progress, not just their presence
Acknowledge and celebrate their efforts, not just their physical presence in rehab. Whether it’s a milestone in their programme or an emotional breakthrough, positive reinforcement will help them feel supported.
What can you say?: When they share a small victory, like making it through a tough day in rehab, you can say, “That’s huge! I’m so proud of how strong you’ve been. Every step you take shows how committed you are, and that’s what really matters.” Encouraging progress can keep them motivated.
Respect the rehab’s process
You might be tempted to check in frequently or ask how they’re doing but trust the professionals guiding them through recovery. Let the process unfold without trying to take control.
After rehab
Recovery doesn’t end when rehab does. In fact, this is where long-term support is often needed most. The transition from a structured environment to everyday life can be challenging, and your support is vital.
Create a sober-friendly environment
Help them avoid triggers by making sure their home is a safe, sober space. Removing alcohol, medications, or anything that could tempt them back into old habits can make a big difference.
Encourage aftercare
Rehab is just the first step. Continuing therapy or attending support groups will be essential for long-term recovery. Be their cheerleader in sticking with these programmes and consider going to meetings with them if appropriate.
What can you say?: You might gently say, “I know sticking with therapy or support groups might not be easy, but I think it’ll really help in the long run. I’d love to go with you to a meeting if you’d like some company.” Offering to be there with them makes the process less daunting.
Be patient with setbacks
Relapse can happen, but it doesn’t mean failure. If your loved one stumbles, avoid blaming them or getting angry. Offer compassion and encourage them to get back on track, whether that’s returning to therapy or reassessing their aftercare plan.
What can you say?: If a relapse happens, you could say, “This doesn’t erase all the progress you’ve made. It’s part of the journey and it’s okay to stumble sometimes. We’ll figure out the next steps together.” This response reassures them that one setback doesn’t mean they’ve failed.
Take care of yourself
Supporting someone in recovery can be emotionally draining. Don’t forget to take care of your mental and physical health. Lean on support groups for families of addicts, or consider seeing a therapist yourself. You can’t pour from an empty cup.
Has your loved one found the right rehab programme?
Finding the right rehab programme for your loved one can be overwhelming. If you’ve been searching for a programme that truly meets their needs, take a moment to explore Oasis Runcorn. Our centre offers a variety of recovery programmes tailored to address different types of substance addictions, providing compassionate care and personalised treatment plans.
Whether it’s alcohol, ketamine or another drug, we provide a safe, supportive environment for your loved one to begin their recovery journey. Don’t wait any longer; reach out to Oasis Runcorn today to learn more about how we can help.